Oh Christian, Have You Been Born Again?

Even though I was a pastor’s son and had been in church since I was three, for the first time in my life I was seeking God on my own. – Clint Decker

Even though I was a pastor’s son and had been in church since I was three, for the first time in my life I was seeking God on my own. One morning as I was praying, suddenly it felt like a flash of light that beamed through my soul. Something had happened to me. I sensed instant peace, joy and love like I had never known. Then while at work I started weeping as the presence of God came over me. Soon I started listening to preachers on the radio, bought study books to help me better understand the Bible and began talking with others about Jesus, along with many other changes. (Image by Point of Life Church)

I had become born again.

This idea came from Jesus out of a conversation He had with a man named, Nicodemus. He was a gifted and well-known religious leader in Israel. He heard Jesus teach and became curious, so Nicodemus sought out Jesus saying to Him, “Rabbi, we know that you are a teacher come from God, for no one can do these signs that you do unless God is with him.” (John 3:2) Jesus responded, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.” (Jn. 3:3).

Jesus was aware that Nicodemus, nor His own disciples, had heard Him speak of this before, so like any of us would have done, Nicodemus asked a very logical question, “How can a man be born when he is old? Can he enter a second time into his mother’s womb and be born?” (Jn. 3:4)

Jesus explained how He was using the birth of a child as an illustration, “…unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God. That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.” (Jn. 3:5-6) Jesus was communicating how there is human birth (flesh) and there is spiritual birth (Spirit), and for someone to enter the kingdom of God, they must go through a spiritual birth.

What does born again mean? First, it is an illustration of life. All of us were born under the curse of sin, which means we were born spiritually dead. Therefore, to enter the kingdom of heaven we need to come alive. We need the supernatural life of Jesus to come dwell within us. Second, being born again, means that since we have been re-born, we also have become a new person. The new life Jesus has created in us has given a new way of thinking and living. Our values, choices and beliefs have all changed. Third, being born again means we have been re-born by the Spirit, not the flesh. Being re-born is something only God can do. Going to church, getting baptized, taking the eucharist, going through catechism – all those are good things, but they are done by you. You cannot be born again through those efforts, but only by the power of God. Jesus addressed this with Nicodemus, “Do not marvel that I said to you, ‘You must be born again.’ The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit.” (Jn. 3:7-8)

How can you become born again? Jesus told Nicodemus “…so must the Son of Man be lifted up, that whoever believes in him may have eternal life.” (Jn. 3:14-15) Jesus said that He will be lifted up on a cross to die and rise again for all people, and it will be done to provide a way for all who are dead in their sin, to be re-born. And when they turn from their sin and trust in Christ with all their heart, they will be made alive!

A prayer for you – Lord God, I pray for spiritual leaders like Nicodemus and those who regularly attend church. May they humble themselves to examine their hearts if they have been born again, and if they have not, may they call upon you and be changed today. Help them to turn from religion and to Christ. In His name. Amen.

When I Forgave My Father

When my father suddenly passed away, I had no regrets. There was nothing but peace in my heart. Years earlier, I had forgiven him and accepted him as he was, not as I wanted him to be. – Clint Decker

My wife and I watched Ragamuffin, a movie about the life of Rich Mullins, a musical prodigy, and the difficult relationship he had with his verbally and emotionally abusive father. We also saw another movie, I Can Only Imagine, about the life of accomplished singer, Bart Millard, and the difficulties he also had with his father, who physically abused him. (Image by alivecounseling.com)

The movies connected with audiences because so many have stories of broken relationships with their fathers. Maybe similar to Rich Mullins and Bart Millard, it was abuse. For others their fathers neglected them while being gone a lot for work or hobbies. And for some, perhaps they grew up without their dad, because for whatever reason, he was gone and they never knew him or just had no relationship.

On the outside, it looked like I came from the perfect family. I grew up in a Christian home where my dad was a pastor, we went to church regularly and my parents never divorced. Yet, inside the walls of our home, it was a different picture.

My father was a complicated man who had strained relationships with nearly every member of our immediate and extended family on different occasions, including me. During a pivotal moment in my life, I excitedly shared that God had called me into the ministry. I anticipated words of encouragement. Instead he commented, “You’re going to need to go to college, and you weren’t a very good student. I don’t know how you’re going to make it.” From that moment until I left for college my dad was the greatest challenge I faced in my call to the ministry. The day I left home was one of the darkest days of my life. While driving away from my home in Fort Collins, Colorado, to begin my ministry studies, I screamed and pounded my steering wheel in a fit of rage.

However, that dark day turned to hope by the providence of God. Little did I know what God had in store when I arrived at MidAmerica Nazarene University in Olathe, Kansas. One of my classes was Pastoral Counseling. Every day it seemed like Dr. Larry Fine was talking directly to me about the anger towards my father. That started me on a 26-year journey of learning to love my dad. That journey reached a milestone in my 30s when my dad and I were talking on the phone and came near the end of the conversation. It became quiet. Silence. My dad was still there. He had not hung up but was unable to speak. He was weeping. Eventually, he gathered himself and whispered, “I love you son.” Then I heard a click. It became the first memory of my father telling me he loved me. It was a powerful moment I will never forget.

On November 13, 2017, my father suddenly died of pancreatic cancer. When he passed away, I had no regrets. There was nothing but peace in my heart. Years earlier, I had forgiven him and accepted him as he was, not as I wanted him to be.

The Scripture says, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:2) At one point in life my disobedience angered God and I deserved His judgement. Yet, He led me to turn from my sin and place my faith in Christ. He truly showed me mercy and undeserved forgiveness.

Consequently, as God showed mercy to me, I learned that I needed to demonstrate that same mercy to my father. God showed me that by His enabling power, I could forgive and show my father the same kindness God showed me in Christ.

There are too many who are living with unforgiveness toward their dads. If that is you, you do not need to live that way anymore. Humble yourself and ask God for His divine help to love and forgive.

A prayer for you – Lord God, I pray for those who are angry toward their fathers. Enable them to forgive and release their fathers to you. To accept and love him just as he is. Do for them, what they cannot do for themselves. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

The Scheme to Silence the Truth

Because truth confronts the conscience and is offensive to the prideful, people scheme to silence it. They deceptively counter it with a phony love. – Clint Decker

The Cathedral of Hope, in Dallas, Texas, is a church that serves the LGBTQ community. The church outlines its purpose saying, “In a world where Christianity has been associated with intolerance, exclusion and hate, [our mission] is to proclaim Christ through faith, hope and love.” (Image by Unsplash)

Before ascending to the Roman Catholic Church’s highest office, Pope Leo XIV wrote about immigration explaining “Jesus Christ, loving everyone with a universal love, educates us in the permanent recognition of the dignity of every human being, without exception.”

Planned Parenthood promoted a blog post about a particular woman’s abortion where she revealed, “It has taken me a long time to get here, but I can now honestly say that I am grateful for my abortion experience. It taught me that even when love is hard, it is always the right choice.”

These quotes highlight three of the hottest topics in our nation, and each is framed around the same concept: love. Nearly every divisive moral issue of our day has supporters using the language of love where you will often hear part of the Great Commandment quoted, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:39) This is the Theory of Phony Love.

The theory frames God’s moral truth as negative while contrasting it with a positive message of phony love. The alleged negative message is, “Marriage is between a man and woman,” while the phony positive message is “Everyone is free to love whom they choose.” The presumed negative message is, “The only way to God is through Jesus” while the misleading positive message is, “We are all God’s children.” The theory depicts God’s moral truth as dividing, hateful and exclusionary, whereas the message of phony love is purportedly unifying, inclusive and compassionate.

Jesus was a victim of this theory. Despite being embraced by the common people, the political and religious leaders did not like Jesus because He continually exposed their evil ways. He once publicly declared, “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you travel across sea and land to make a single [convert], and when he becomes a [convert], you make him twice as much a child of hell as yourselves.” (Matthew 23:15)

The leaders failed to silence Him so they resorted to a deceptive scheme to have Him executed. They went before the authorities falsely stating, “We found this man misleading our nation and forbidding us to give tribute to Caesar, and saying that he himself is Christ, a king.” (Luke 23:2) And they also made claims that, “He stirs up the people, teaching throughout all Judea, from Galilee even to this place.” (Lk. 23:5).

The Theory of Phony Love portrayed Jesus’ teaching in a negative light, alleging it was divisive and dangerous for the nation. At the same time the enemies of Jesus deceivingly presented themselves in a positive light as doing what was supposedly unifying and good for the nation.

This ancient strategy first appeared in the Garden of Eden where God laid down His moral law for Adam and Eve. There, Satan came to thwart God’s efforts by depicting God’s message as bad, and conversely, presenting Satan’s own message as good for them.

When it comes to right and wrong, and good and evil, it is ultimately a spiritual battle over God’s moral truth. It is the standard by which men and women are to live, and one day will be judged by.

Because the truth confronts the conscience, is offensive to the prideful and reveals the need for a Savior, people scheme to silence it. They deceptively counter it with an intolerant, selective and a half-truthed phony love.

Their feel-good message is void of Jesus’ moral truth and amazing grace. For when the humble hear His truth, turn from their evil ways and to Christ, they are rescued from the penalty and power of their sin. They become liberated from the shackles of their evil passions. They come to experience the peace and forgiveness of Christ.

Be wise and reject phony love, while knowing and living out the transforming power of Jesus’ truth and grace.

A prayer for you – Lord God, give your followers wisdom and guard them against deception. Empower them through your Spirit to stand firm, as they continually share your unchanging and beautiful truth. In Jesus’ name. Amen.