"Why do people feel the blues around Christmas? It was never meant to be this way.”
This time of year is especially difficult for many when a spouse or child has died and is no longer on the Christmas list. It is hard as well for those who have been stricken by the blows of loneliness, which seem to come every December. For others, family strife or failed expectations end up being the enemy of Christmas joy. Some people may sing, “It’s the most wonderful time of the year!” while others sing the Christmas Blues, “May all your days be merry; Your seasons full of cheer; But 'til it's January; I'll just go and disappear; Oh Santa may have brought you some stars for your shoes; But Santa only brought me the blues.” (Image from papyrus-uk.org)
Why do people feel the blues around Christmas? Have we inadvertently caused this with a hyper-focus on gifts, children, decorations and family gatherings? Christmas was never meant to be all wrapped up in all these types of things. We learn about its intent when we go back to the world’s first Christmas. The original Christmas story states, “I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. And this will be a sign for you: you will find a baby wrapped in swaddling cloths and lying in a manger.’ And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying, ‘Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace among those with whom he is pleased!’ …And the shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all they had heard and seen, as it had been told them.” (Luke 2:10-14, 20)
There was no Christmas blues for those unknown shepherds. Why? Because their focus was on Jesus. Their joy came from the news about Him.
At the same time, the first Christmas also had pain and sorrow. When evil King Herod heard of a competing King that had been born, he sought to execute Him by killing all baby boys two years old and younger. The mass killing of these children was anticipated, and a prophetic statement was made about it, “A voice was heard in Famah, weeping and loud lamentation, Rachel weeping for her children, she refused to be comforted because they are no more.” (Matthew 2:18)
The anguish those families experienced was real. Can someone have the joy of Christmas while walking through such a dark valley? Here are seven principles to overcome the blues of Christmas. 1) Set your mind on Jesus. What you focus on affects your life. Give attention to the Light of the World. 2) Pray to the Lord God. When no one else will understand, He will. 3) Read the Bible. It is a supernatural book. Whatever you are walking through, God’s Word will speak to it. 4) Refuse to isolate yourself. God created us to engage with others, when we slide into isolation, we set ourselves on a dangerous path. 5) Give yourself to the service of others. Go and do something good for another person. 6) Limit your screen time on electronics. When we get on these devices for extended periods it can become a form of isolation that can lead to depression. 7) Do not be ruled by your feelings or emotions. There is one God, and it is not them.
How can you set your mind on Jesus? Know Him personally. Realize you have fallen short of God’s standards and are subject to His judgement. Understand you can do nothing to save yourself, but are simply at His mercy. Know that Jesus came from heaven to earth in order to be that mercy for you. He died and rose again so you can be forgiven, set free and made new.
A prayer for you – Lord God, I pray you will lift our eyes above all the gifts, decorations and other holiday trappings. Help us to see you, the very reason for Christmas. Come alongside those weighed down by various trials, and bring them to call upon you in faith that they might walk in the joy of Christmas. In Jesus’ name. Amen.